Nine Distinct Qualities of Truly Confident People
#1. They take a stand not because they think they are always right, but because they are not afraid to be wrong.
Truly confident people don't mind being proven wrong. They feel finding out what is right is a lot more important than being right. And when they're wrong, they're secure enough to back down graciously.
#2. They listen ten times more than they speak.
Truly confident people are quiet and unassuming. They already know what they think; they want to know what you think. They ask what you do, how you do it, what you like about it, what you learned from it, and what they should do if they find themselves in a similar situation.
Truly confident people realize they know a lot, but they wish they knew more... and they know the only way to learn more is to listen more.
#3. They duck the spotlight so it shines on others.
Truly confident people don't need the glory; they know what they've achieved.
They don't need the validation of others, because true validation comes from within.
So they stand back and celebrate their accomplishments through others. They stand back and let others shine - a confidence boost that helps those people become truly confident, too.
#4. They freely ask for help.
Confident people are secure enough to admit a weakness. So they often ask others for help, not only because they are secure enough to admit they need help but also because they know that when they seek help they pay the person they ask a huge compliment.
Saying, "Can you help me?" shows tremendous respect for that individual's expertise and judgment. Otherwise you wouldn't ask.
#5. They think, "Why not me?"
Many people feel they have to wait: To be promoted, to be hired, to be selected, to be chosen... Truly confident people know that access is almost universal.
They can connect with almost anyone through social media. (Everyone you know knows someone you should know.) They know they can attract their own funding, create their own products, build their own relationships and networks, choose their own path...
#6. They don't put down other people..
Generally speaking, the people who like to gossip, who like to speak badly of others, do so because they hope by comparison to make themselves look better.
The only comparison a truly confident person makes is to the person she was yesterday - and to the person she hopes to someday become.
#7. They aren't afraid to look silly...
When you're truly confident, you don't mind occasionally being in a situation where you aren't at your best.
(And oddly enough, people tend to respect you more when you do - not less.)
#8. And they own their mistakes.
When you're truly confident, you don't mind occasionally "looking bad." You realize that that when you're genuine and unpretentious, people don't laugh at you.
They laugh with you.
#9. They only seek approval from the people who really matter.
10k Twitter followers or 20k Facebook friends pales in comparison to earning the trust and respect of the few people in your life that truly matter.
When we earn their trust and respect, no matter where we go or what we try, we do it with true confidence - because we know the people who truly matter the most are truly behind us.